Kind of a throwback to our good old baby shower days...
Just got a Facebook invite to a shower for DH's cousin. That she is hosting herself. For her 2nd child. Her first is just shy of 3 yrs old, and the same sex. And she just aborted a baby last year. All conceived from different guys. And she just moved into DH's grandpa's house, against grandpa's wishes...but he wouldn't turn her out on the street. And she refuses employment, even though DH has found her several full time, well-paying jobs with benefits. And she lived down the street from us for years but refused to visit or even wave back when we waved to her.
And she just let me know that she is registered at Target and Babies R Us. You know, so I know where to buy her stuff from.
Anyone else have anything tacky to share???????
Re: Tacky Things?
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You have one year to SEND a gift. Not to write the note. At least, according to Emily Post / Amy Vanderbilt. Once you get a gift you write a note promptly, as in, before washing it and putting it away the first time.
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I don't remember ever receiving a card or note from anyone for a shower gift or wedding gift.
If I had, I probably would have thought they were wasting money and killing unnecessary trees.
Now-a-days, I'm happy with a verbal thanks, email or Facebook.
Flame away.
YankeePeach08 hahahaha love that!
defri17 I wouldn't post that kind of thing for myself. it's a nice idea but it should really be organized by someone else, like a gift. asking others to pay for your meals seems tacky to me.
I've seen friends of new moms post meal sites like that and encourage other friends to sign up if they'd like, which was nice and a good idea. I'd frown on the mtb asking for meals like that though. maybe sending the link to someone who asked for it would be fine.
I've gotta add this....
I think it's rude to get upset at the woman for her lack of proper etiquette regarding TYNs if she fails at sending them in a timely manner.
Why?
Because the man (husband or father) could do this job. He's the husband...he received the gift too...
I HATE stereotypes.
My DH can shop for and send a thank you card just as easily as I can...
(We didn't send thank-yous for our wedding)
DH wrote the thank you notes to his friends and family for our wedding and baby gifts. I wrote them for mine. It was a good way for both of us to be involved.
Me: 29 ovulatory disorder
DH: 30 MFI - low everything
IUI #1: 11/5/12 BFN
December IUI cancelled due to cyst
IUI #2: 1/8/13 BFN
IVF in April 2013 transferred one beautiful blast on 4/13
Beta #1 4/22: BFP!! 33 Beta #2 54 Beta #3 70 Beta #4 83 Beta #5 105. Possible ectopic, MTX and M/C 5w4d
FET 6/21 - Beta #1: 79 BFP!! Beta #2: 253 U/S 7/12: saw the sac! U/S #2 7/19 great heartbeat of 127!! U/S #3 heartbeat of 154! U/S #4 graduated to OB
EDD 3/9/14
Good for your DH.
If I take the time to get you something, you can take the time to acknowledge it in some way.
I will also teach LO to write thank you notes. I remember doing them after my bday parties when I was little and i want to pass on that lesson.
Me: 29 ovulatory disorder
DH: 30 MFI - low everything
IUI #1: 11/5/12 BFN
December IUI cancelled due to cyst
IUI #2: 1/8/13 BFN
IVF in April 2013 transferred one beautiful blast on 4/13
Beta #1 4/22: BFP!! 33 Beta #2 54 Beta #3 70 Beta #4 83 Beta #5 105. Possible ectopic, MTX and M/C 5w4d
FET 6/21 - Beta #1: 79 BFP!! Beta #2: 253 U/S 7/12: saw the sac! U/S #2 7/19 great heartbeat of 127!! U/S #3 heartbeat of 154! U/S #4 graduated to OB
EDD 3/9/14
I just spoke with her and she needs to go to the grocery store to pick up dinner and said for me to get the dress and try it on at her house after. She then said she premakes salads for the week and puts them in separate containers for her lunch throughout the week, as in she is having her Thursday salad and doesn't have enough for me. Then she said she has only 2 pieces of ham for her sandwich but has a ton of bread and has mustard. So what am I going to eat a mustard sandwich or toast?? I told her I'd just pack a salami sandwich bc I went shopping yesterday. She then asks me to bring her salami bc she'd rather have that then ham!!! My head was spinning when we hung up. Did that really just happen?? You invite me over for lunch but aren't providing lunch, instead you like my lunch better and I need to bring you lunch??
I'm thinking of canceling...
Babybeachbum oh my gosh what?? haha. I don't even understand how she came up with that or that all happened!
I'd totally cancel, unless it's a very very close friend.
Honestly how embarrassing not to have thanked people for their gifts. Incredibly rude.
Wedding gifts are given at the wedding here and are given to both the husband and wife. We shared the thank you notes (I did two thirds and my husband did a third of them). I did the ones to my family and our friends and he did his family's one. Worked for us! Same goes for the christening gifts.
Baby showers are actually deemed pretty tacky here...... Don't hate me!!! So gifts are given when you meet the baby (so come in over the first few weeks or even months) so are written as they come. No registries for babies, parents buy everything, but generally close family help out when they can (everyone loves a baby afterall!!) and gifts are usually clothes (people are pretty good and buy a range of sizes not all newborn which you are likely to have). Men having nappy parties is definitely a no-go..... Haha!
Back to weddings.... Women have hen nights where you party!! But no gifts are given. Men have stag dos and again no gifts....
I am SO RELIEVED at the idea that people who are mad about me not sending notes will just stop sending gifts. THANK HEAVENS. I would rather not be under all that pressure.
My family always did phone calls/verbal thanks so the note thing only started for me when I got married. I guess you have to start young....
Even gifts to one spouse can be turned into marital property if the recipient spouse treats it as marital property.
/law nerd
Me: 29 ovulatory disorder
DH: 30 MFI - low everything
IUI #1: 11/5/12 BFN
December IUI cancelled due to cyst
IUI #2: 1/8/13 BFN
IVF in April 2013 transferred one beautiful blast on 4/13
Beta #1 4/22: BFP!! 33 Beta #2 54 Beta #3 70 Beta #4 83 Beta #5 105. Possible ectopic, MTX and M/C 5w4d
FET 6/21 - Beta #1: 79 BFP!! Beta #2: 253 U/S 7/12: saw the sac! U/S #2 7/19 great heartbeat of 127!! U/S #3 heartbeat of 154! U/S #4 graduated to OB
EDD 3/9/14